This is a long overdue story.
That guy is my fiance. The one hugging him is his ex-colleauge. My heart boiled when i saw this picture. Firstly, her hands is over his shoulders and her thigh is above his. Isnt it too intimate for friends? Especially when the guy is engaged to someone. Secondly, i didnt even know that they (with a bunch of friends as they assumed) went out together and from other pictures, i assume they went to the beach or a park. This photo got me mad. Real mad. Would any of you feel the same way if you were in my shoes? Well, i bumped into this picture when i was viewing her friendster account.
And so, i left her a comment. There was some war of words between us. Lastly, she sent a a private msg...and this is
EXACTLY what she said.
"to my point of view,i hug ur fiance from the side. not from the front which my chest touching his. n that won't happen coz i know which is right and wrong. i believe u should know that we are good FRIENDS and we know how to behave ourself. this comes to open-mindness. eventhou we r living in the 20th century now which is kinda open environment but still in our mind, we still know our limit gal... i apologize if the pic really hurts u alot. not only i love him as a friend but we,his x-colleges loves him alot. my advice don't create a mountain over a molehill. don't jump to conclusion. settle things professionally. u might not b able to accept watever i said in here coz im the one who create the problem TO YOU i supposed. however as a gd friend to ur fiance,try to loosen up a bit... dont get too stress up... gd luck then!"
Practically, she is telling me that i am too conservative and old-fashioned. And she is teaching me to be more open-minded. I wonder if she gave a thought of what she said beforehand. Will she willingly let somebody else touches her boyfriend(if she have one) like that? Did she even think how she would have felt if she was in my place? Did she realise that she is hurting another woman and that it might happen or could have happened to her before? Or is she the kind who goes around touching anybody like that, doesnt matter is it someone else's boyfriend, fiance or husband and call that within her limits? And i wonder how she limit herself then...?
I didnt reply to her msg. I had wanted to call her but i guess it will be just a waste of my time. She will just hurt me further. And i didnt want to stoop to her level. I had a big fight with him then. He didnt even bother about how i felt. He supported her and said she was right. Is she right? If she is then where is my rights as his fiancee.
As usual i am always the one who have to give in. We got back together and he promised me that he will tell her to delete the picture from her profile. A week later, the picture is still there and when i asked he said he already told her to delete it and that she will do it when she is free. Till now, the picture is still there. It could be either he lied about telling her to delete it or she could be the one who refuse to delete it. Either, or. And i just cant be bothered to say anything. She is old enough to think what is right and what is wrong. I don't think she will like it if her friends, relatives or anybody she know to come across someone's profile hugging her boyfriend(again, if she have one). I just hope(really really hope) that one day she will go through what i went through and only then perhaps she might understand how i feel.
I went through so much. U made me down just too many times, but each time..i will bring myself up again and i will tell myself not to lose hope and that things are going to change for the better. When will you ever realise how much effort i put into this relationship..?
That guy is my fiance. The one hugging him is his ex-colleauge. My heart boiled when i saw this picture. Firstly, her hands is over his shoulders and her thigh is above his. Isnt it too intimate for friends? Especially when the guy is engaged to someone. Secondly, i didnt even know that they (with a bunch of friends as they assumed) went out together and from other pictures, i assume they went to the beach or a park. This photo got me mad. Real mad. Would any of you feel the same way if you were in my shoes? Well, i bumped into this picture when i was viewing her friendster account.